Comments on: Can bullying be good?

by: Darren

Thu, 08 May 2008 16:55:59 +0000

Hello there.Firstly i’d like to point out that bullying is a very subjective experience. Though i agree that one cannot expect things to go one’s way all the time and so a certain amount of aggravation is to be expected, bullying in it’s extreme form is tantamount to child abuse by children on children and so i cannot disagree strongly enough that this can have any over-riding positive effects. Though there is a great deal of scientific research out there which associates bullying with negative outcomes, such as depression, body dismorphia(to name but a few) it surely depends on the person(victim)as to whether it benefits them or not in the future. There are mitigating factors such as support of peers, support of parents, support of teachers, which affect the resilience of victim. Some people are not as fortunate as you obviously were, and there is a tendency to look back with rose tinted spectacles on the past in order to maintain a positive sense of well being now. Undoubtedly, overcoming challenges makes one stronger and challenges are easier to overcome with support. Some people, through no fault of their own, do not have this support. Does that make you a stronger person than them?(reference to the gene pool comment earlier) No- It just makes you luckier.

by: Luke

Thu, 15 Nov 2007 12:35:23 +0000

Wow this posts still getting linked too from somewhere?

Hi Loz, A real best friend will never bully you, you deserve better. In my book list “recommended reading” there is a great book I suggest everyone (you included) reads called super confidence, stupid title but fantastic book. It helped me, and loads of my clients understand that they dont need friends like that.

by: loz

Thu, 15 Nov 2007 12:02:46 +0000

elo,

my best mate bullies me!

i dont know what to do cos i wana be her mate .

all i know is that it has not made me stronger x

by: murphey

Sat, 09 Dec 2006 01:07:01 +0000

I think bullying is part of human nature, it is in our primal instinct to single out people who are a threat to the gene pool.
Oh coarse it is illegal to just murder a person based on if there “weird” or not,but it is still embedded in our brains.

by: Luke

Wed, 01 Nov 2006 19:01:26 +0000

wow, this post… still getting googled hits? Hi Ape, no, as you can see from the rest of these comments I stand by my argument that in some ways Bullying makes you stronger. I’d add though that it’s more about gaining strength of character in the face of adversity and not the actual being bullied part.

by: Ape

Wed, 01 Nov 2006 03:24:03 +0000

i have to do a speak on bullying (that it is good) am i bad..

by: Luke

Tue, 04 Oct 2005 09:19:24 +0000

Everyone is welcome to their opinion on here, however, if I think your comments are just pointless and lacking in substance I may choose to amend them.

The other comments you posted, have been deleted as they pretty much all said the same thing. Please re-read the article in question, I was posing the possibility that learning to deal with bullying prepares you for later life.

by: Sarah Hancock

Tue, 04 Oct 2005 08:45:38 +0000

[EDIT]I think bulling is BAD u r all wierd to think that it is good.[EDIT]

by: Weatherman

Tue, 06 Sep 2005 21:10:17 +0000

I do think that altho bullying is a bad thing if it had never happened to me thru most of my childhood then i wouldn’t be who i am today.

I may not have done the crazy hair and not cared what people thought, i may not have been as quick with the comebacks and i may not have worked out that talking your way out of a situation is better than resorting to the physical answer!

by: Penny

Tue, 06 Sep 2005 14:05:18 +0000

Yep!! Being bullied does make you stronger. Everytime someone has tried to bully me they have been the ones who end up looking stupid. It happened just today actually!!